Here are some friends with some terrific reading, we do not necessarily endorse all that can be found on these sites but are sure you will be blessed.
Martin Brothers built our home. If you are looking to relocate to So. Cal. , check with them about building your home.
Go above, click on bible institute, sign up for the correspondence course and be totally blessed getting drenched in the Word!!!! They offer free tracts, books and tapes. Be sure to send them a donation even though everything is "free". I call it the pray and pay system.
This is a terrific online study course that I started and JUST LOVE! I'm doing The Lord's Table and I'm only on day 8 (3-10-06), have lost 4 pounds but GAINED freedom in Jesus which seems was missing in my life. I highly recommend this site and program.
In depth study of the headcovering.
The Blue Banner from First Presbyterian Church of Rowlett, Texas
Book store with some older hard to find items
Great site of a dear sister in the Lord, many terrific articles.
The name says it all.
The Patriarch's Path
Jonathan Lindvall
Reformed Theology Calvinistic Theology
Great headcovering resource page with tons of information as to why the covering is necessary.
An Exposition of 1 Cor. 11:2-16 (This is a great article on the headcovering, for more information see and of this page)
The Brethren
Headcoverings and the Christian Woman
A Woman's Headcovering. Is it Really for Today?
For a number of additional links please go to the end of the Veil Cap Headcoverings page. More are at the end of the modesty/submission page as well.
This is a great link with TONS of information. Commentaries, the Bible, sermons, many references to do your own research.
Some friends of ours who make a terrific product. I want one of these for our new home,,, right in the front yard! They also sell hope chests.
Some friends of ours who have adopted children and are a wonderful example. This page links to their children in our headcovering's.
For more conservative coverings
Modest, Plain Christian Clothing & Headcoverings for the Whole Family
More modest clothing links
God in Charge Ministry
Click the links page, then mall for many modest dress resources.
Description of the site, Christian T-Shirts and Caps for your next Concert.
Headcovering Testimonies
My Testimony Wendy McDonnell
My testimony regarding covering and dresses only.
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Back July of 2000 a brother in church accosted me, I was wearing a nice black dress which my beloved had purchased for me. I needed a girdle to get into it, silt to the knees, skin tight, hose, heels, hair to up there and makeup... see it was in church, this brother grabbed me, kissed me after saying oh baby come here. I didn't talk with him again, I was mortified to cause a brother to stumble. I got rid of all of my shee shee dresses then and there and haven't looked back since. I now wear clothing which doesn't accentuate my shape but makes it very obvious that I'm a lady and not a man. The best thing about all of this has been that it led me to learning about submission which I am still learning regularly.
The headcovering followed shortly thereafter, I started to cover my head because the Lord totally convicted me one day while in prayer, that was in September of 2000. It was weird for me but normal with the manner which the Lord works in my life. I was praying for my ill father who was in the hospital expected to die and DH who I excepted to lose his job by the end of the day. Well, here I was rocking back and forth begging the Lord for mercy, tears rolling and couldn't even articulate any words. One of those groaning sessions which I have with the Lord on occasion. When I finished I had wrapped my shawl up around my head without knowing it. The first time it happened that day, I kinda went what? The second time in the same day, I really had to take note of it. I was upset that the Lord would ask something so very different of me. I'm not saying that DH didn't lose his job, or that Dad’s alive today because I covered. I think that the Lord needed those situations to engrave the magnitude of what He was trying to relay to me that day, He knew that I was going to need it to withstand what was to follow. I knew about the verses in 1 Corinthians 11:2-16 but I didn't think they were for me. I thought maybe if I were Amish or Mennonite, sure, then I would cover but I'm not, so I didn't. Well, after that day of prayer there's really no looking back once the Lord clobbered me I have covered full time ever since. Yes it was a struggle, yes it was weird just as is anything when new, now it's old hat (pun intended!).
There are very few other covering women here in Southern California who aren't Anabaptist or Muslim which makes it a very difficult thing to do. I believe that obedience is key in my walk with the Lord and so I cover full time. For me it’s inconvenient to cover and uncover through out the day. I was really paranoid when I left the house initially while covered, funny though, my friends didn't say anything. Sure there were a few jokes about the Amish lady but primarily no Christians will ask about it. One of the neatest things has been men (and women) hold doors open now instead of sending cat calls my way. That is so nice, I can't tell you how much better it is to have respect instead of sleazy stuff!
We are called to cover when praying or prophesying which is when I was convicted, during prayer. Some people have asked why I cover full time and not just in the assembly. They say that Pauls' talking to the assembled body of believers when he says that we are to cover for prayer and prophesy. Some say that Paul was only referring to the times when the church was together. Personally I see that he doesn't start talking to the body until the following verses about communion. So if he is talking only about the times that the church gets together then flip to Chapter 14... a woman is to keep silent in the assembly... so how then can Paul have possibly been talking about the assembly in Chapter 11? Follow me? So the Bible backs up the full time covering as well as does my conviction from the Lord.
August of 2001, I was uncovered for my husband as he likes to see my hair. We were with some friends who ended up seeing me uncovered for the first time in a year as we were spending the night and I had taken a shower. My hair air dries and so they couldn't help but see it. I took a nap and then covered, went to find my sweet husband who was in with the group. Well, it was just the neatest thing. He said something along the lines of there’s my beautiful wife. My mouth hit the floor, my husband does not lightly drop compliments, so when I hear one I know that it’s genuine. I asked him about it and he said something along the lines that it was nice and normal to see me covered.
In October of 2001 a great thing happened while my beloved was praying with our son. My son was wearing a cap that I had made for him, he’s so sweet ever since I made it for him, he won’t take it off. Anyway, Kevin was praying and tucking him in for the night. After about a sentence or so, my son realized that he was covered in prayer and whipped it off. Mind you, he’s only six years old when this happened, praise the Lord. My beloved came into me and made a really big deal about the fact that we are training our son correctly as he had removed his cover before the Lord. What a total blessing. Men remove their hats when they pray, still to this day, as a sign of respect for the Lord. Women cover their heads in the same sign of respect.
The Lord doesn’t have to give me these little gem’s but He continually does. On another occasion I was trying to look good for my beloved and wore a thoroughly modern skirt and top with a scarf around my neck for a covering, hair down. I came to see if he liked the look and he hated it. I changed into my normal garb and he said something just wasn't right. We were on our way out the door at that point and he “asked” me to cover. Said the hair was the problem. What a blessing. See I was convicted before he was in regard to the command to cover. He now believes that the covering is for today through a very thorough exposition we have been blessed with from a Reformed Pastor in Riverside.
The Lord has lead us to a Reformed Baptist Church in La Mirada (2/02) fortunately there is one other woman there who covers, another little gem from the Lord. We have been blessed with hearing from great teachings on this subject R.C. Sproul (http://www.gospelcom.net/ligonier/ ask for information regarding the headcovering), Arnold Fruchtenbaum (www.ariel.org -has a tape), Russell K. Tardo (www.faithfulword.com-has a tape #CH123) and a Pastor (Riverside, CA) locally had to face these verses as he was going through 1 Corinthians and came upon them. He took many months to get through all of the information which is out there on coverings, commentaries, books, information on the net, all of the old historians and agreed that it is for today. All of the above mentioned theologians have tapes on this issue and you can order them through their web sites. The Pastor has a 10 tape set which is not yet available (9/02) when it becomes available I will make the information known here.
God Bless you as you seek.
Sincerely,
Wendy
Well, the Lord had been convicting me for a LONG time that 1 Corinthians 11
meant a woman should wear a headcovering while praying or prophesying. I
mean, a long time, since I was a teenager and first read that chapter. Of
course, I didn't see anyone else wearing a headcovering (except Amish and
Mennonites) so I found commentaries, and asked Pastors and my parents, etc.
They gave me all kinds of answers of course... It was a cultural thing, it
doesn't really mean a woman should wear a headcovering (because there is some
confusion about that passage) that the true message was the headship of
Christ, and so on, and so on, and so on. So I swallowed those ideas hook,
line and sinker. But... everytime I read that passage it BUGGED me!
Finally, I met some ladies in Oregon (completely independent of each other)
who wore headcovering's. Then I met ladies on the web who wore them. I
started to think... What did I know about these ladies? Well, all of them
truly loved the Lord in a GREAT way (not to say non-headcoverers don't) and
had chosen to live pretty radical lives because of their convictions. I read
the passage over and over and over. I asked my hubby about it. He said he
didn't see any problem with me wearing one, but "it is your head" and he
didn't care one way or another. In the meantime, the Lord had been slowly
changing my dressing habits, and I was wearing longish dresses more and more
often instead of pants.
One day as I was studying this passage I heard the gentle conviction of the
Lord. I quickly changed to another passage to read. <smile> I don't
remember this passage, but the message I got out of this all was "If you
can't obey me in this SMALL thing, how can you obey me in the LARGE things
that will bring persecution to you?" oh, that hurt. That hurt a lot. I had
been putting it off because I was scared about what other people would say!
I was fully convinced in my mind by now that women should wear
headcovering's, (and I'll explain more on that later) but was scared of the
"comments and questions" I would have to answer.
So, I put on a headcovering. The first time hubby saw it, he said "What
are you doing?" I said, "I'm not sure. What do you think?" He looked at me
and said, "If you do this, do it for always, no putting it off and putting
it on and wavering back and forth." Whew! The Lord has a way of reinforcing
His messages, doesn't he? The Lord has truly blessed my spiritual life
through this. I grew so much. I mean, you can't dress in the least
immodestly while wearing a headcovering! You won't check out some movies, or
buy some books, because that conviction is with you strongly that you are
showing Christ to the world in a very obvious way! Men treat you with much
more respect and gentleness. Older people and children are more likely to
ask you for help. And it has opened many doors for me to share Christ with
people.
Now, about my statement that all Christian women should wear headcovering's.
Yes, I do believe that. In most foreign (i.e. less developed and less
materialistic) countries, the Christian women wear headcovering's for worship.
This is the accepted practice, and they wonder why the American women don't
obey God. I believe that, in particular, most American women are in
rebellion over this particular area. (It would mess up our hairstyles, ya
know!) But, I can also see how this passage is confusing and how an American
woman who truly loves the Lord can get a lot of conflicting advice from
commentaries and pastors on why this isn't for them. Not to mention that a
husband may not want his wife to wear a headcovering (and if she wasn't
submitted to her husband, that would kind of defeat the purpose, don't you
think?)
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"The enemy will always tell you the cost of following the will of God - but
he will never tell you the cost of NOT following the will of God." - Henry
Blackaby
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From Rhonda who works in a prison:
I have been wearing a black bandana folded into a triangle at work with my
uniform. Have had a few "nun" & "doo-rag" (doo-rag is a black cap that
African-Americans wear to help train their hair to lay in controlled waves &
is very common among the black inmates) comments but no "it looks bad" kind.
The response from the men-staff as well as inmates has been startling.
Respect & courtesy has skyrocketed in the housing unit I am responsible for
while discipline problems from the inmates & staff-staff & staff-inmate
conflicts have almost become non-existent during my work hours. This has
been noticed by even my higher supervisors. Last week we had 6 big fights in
5 days on my shift. My housing unit was the only one that had none. They're
asking "what have I changed" in the "house". They don't believe me when I
say it's the scarf, but I know it is. The staff's language & gutter talk has
also vastly improved & male staff are now quick to "verbally correct" any
inmate or staff member wandering through my area that uses such language in
my presence. A very surprising effect that we have noticed is the inmates
are taking down their pornographic nude pictures from their cell walls &
keeping their pornographic magazines well buried in their property boxes
rather than in plain view on their desks or shelves. As one inmate put it
when I asked about his usually filthy cell that he is now proudly keeping
clean, "Hey, Sarge (that's me), I got to now. I never know when you're going
to come through & it's almost like having my momma around. I wouldn't want
her seeing that stuff, nor do I want you seeing it." I was impressed to say
the least as this particular inmate has been a "problem" throughout his
incarceration, & was a "problem" until very recently in my presence.
One day I did not cover as I had gotten up late & did not have the time to
put on my bandana which is time consuming with my long hair. You should have
heard the "chastisement" from my fellow staff, male & female. I thought that
workday would never end. Only 1 male captain has had the nerve to tell me
that my covering is "not authorized" under departmental rules, but as of
yet, no one has told me to not wear it. I think that I make him nervous as
he is a cradle-Catholic & not a very well-behaved one ;-)
Rhonda Dodson
dodson@adams.net
I began covering on Nov. 14, 2001 - it was a Wednesday and the reason I remember that is because we went to church that evening, all of us 'girls' wearing hc. :o We all walked in and got a little of a double take, but that was it. Everyone there was very understanding with the exception of one woman and a few other "looks" from some women. They got used to it. But, we no longer attend there but not because of the hc.
Anyway, I became interested in the significance of the hc so I started searching the Internet for articles - for and against. I read a few and immediately, here at the keyboard I became convicted and ran to the hall closet to find one of dd's kerchiefs (the little ones from WM that I think most everyone has seen or owned!) and I began covering then. I have since studied more in-depth and still feel convicted to participate in "wearing a symbol of authority on my head" I have gone thru times of not wearing it regularly - once for a whole month. I do not wear anything to bed, I did for a little while but always woke up with it off! I believe that the Lord is able to protect me while I am unconscious. I wear only the kerchief style (I make my own) and have about 2 dozen - long, extra long and short. An article I recommend is "The Scarf of Hidden Power" by Renee Ellison. You can find it on the Internet, just type in the title. My DH loves that I wear it, he feels privileged to be the only man to see my glory. He has grown more in love with me since doing this! Go figure. That is of the Lord I believe.
There are some down times and sometimes I feel very homely, compared to how I used to look, but fortunately those times are becoming fewer and fewer. I believe that the Lord is using me and I want to be of service. I hope you find what you are looking for concerning this issue.
Much Love,
Zen :)
"Serve one another in love." Galatians 5:13
I am also a woman who covers. I began to be convicted about it almost 2 summers ago. Our family was camping and we saw another family that was so loving and well behaved. All the females, from the mom to the twin 2 year olds wore coverings. I asked the mom about it and was so impressed by her simple answer, she read I Cor 11 and was convicted to so do. By this time my sister was also covering. My sister told me about a Mennonite woman in Ohio who made modest dresses. I have worn modest clothing for years and knowing there was someone out there who made them excited me. She made a few for me and also spoke to me about covering and she made a couple for me. Those have long worn out and now I make my own coverings. I can send a link to a picture to you privately if you are interested. A few women sent me patterns and I modified my favorite and now have this one.
I feel that it is extremely important for me to be in obedience to God. He says women should cover while praying - not just in church - he says cover while praying. I take it to mean every time. I cover almost all the time but am working on the night covering. I wear a c-pap machine at night so I need something that will work with it. I am planning to make some mob caps for bed.
I feel that wearing the covering not only shows our obedience to God but also shows our submission to our husband, the idea of headship. This in turn shows our children that we are accepting the authority and sets a good example for them.
I have an assortment of solid colors that I wear with anything I want and am now making a veil to match each cape dress I make if I have enough fabric. I also like to make a matching 1/2 apron. Not only is this functional but is also extends the life of the dress. I have a dress cut out and waiting upstairs and came down stairs just to get the veil pattern so I can add the matching veil. I really feel undressed without a covering on.
My experiences with others has always been very positive. My husband said that people look at a covered woman and feel that she is to be trusted and that she trusts in God. I am treated with courtesy and respect - always (except with my kids at times).
You stated you want to show submission to your husband - this is an outward sign that you desire this.
Tami
I came to the conviction to cover before my DH! As I studied the WORD of GOD and learned that even the angels cover their heads in the presence of GOD I was amazed! The LORD revealed many things to me while I studied and prayed. The reason I began the study was simply because the LORD kept drawing me to 1Cor. 11. Then I would hear or read testimonies of ladies who made the choice to cover ..... now where were these testimonies for the first several years of my walk with GOD? :) The LORD was encouring me, I believe.
One day I went to my DH and asked him what he thought, without hesitation he said he didn't think it was needed. I asked one question of him, "why?" He didn't answer!! It was almost nine years later before he just looked at me and said "I really think I would like you to wear a head covering, would you mind?" I was delighted. I have to wonder if my quietness and joy allowed him to hear the voice of GOD over mine. Had I hounded him, requested him to pray/study/think about it more he may have only heard the sound of my voice and not heard the still small voice of GOD. One miraculous thing that the LORD did in my heart during that long time of waiting was changed my heart from the inside out! I wasn't anxious, frustrated waiting, there was nothing but a quiet gentle peace in my heart. Even though I believed that I "should" wear a covering I came to understand and embrace in a new and precious way loving submission. Praise the LORD! One "portion" of wearing a covering is a public statement of loving submission to our husbands, how silly and sinful for me to wear one against my husbands will.
Blessings that have come since the covering? One precious one is an ever constant reminded of the fact that I carry the responsibility of the testimony of JESUS CHRIST wherever I go! In the beginning I would catch a facial expression, out of the corner of my eye in a mirror, and the lovely lace or feminine material that acted as a cover did not line up with that ugly old face, or perhaps it was the harsh tone of my voice or the welling up of hardness in my heart. The reminder that came from the covering acted as a form of accountability. ... and still does :)
The love the LORD had given me for my sweet babies (now all nearly grown) and my precious husband grew to be more purely expressed ... this grows daily as I seek my FATHER. I was not one given to complaining much and hardly ever in public, but having a covering has caused me to be even more patient and truly loving with the new cashier who has made a million mistakes when I was running late before I ever got into her line, or the waitress who messes up the order for the third time or the child who is throwing a royal fit and scaring my son to death! Even when I am rushed and don't have the time to wait for the elderly lady to make her way up the post office steps, just so I can hold the door for her, I do and I do it smiling deep from within my heart. The LORD has used my covering to cover me in ways I couldn't have imagined.
I too live in a community where absolutely no one wears a cover. I am a coordinator for a health food coop in the little rural town in which I live and more times than I can count I have been asked by someone, calling requesting to join, if I am that lady who wears the head covering! At first I never wanted to be referred to like that, but now it is fine! I have been blessed greatly! I have dear, dear heart friends none of whom "cover." I have oodles of Christian acquaintances who from time to time feel the need to ask about "that rag," "the thing," or "theeee mmm" (as they point) on my head! Others have felt the need to explain to me that my long dresses and covering are bondage and how JESUS died to set us free. I am free! Free to have a quietness within my heart, a greater love for my neighbor, and a peace that passes all my understanding! No over paid, heathen designer decides what I will wear, instead my husband and I decide :) How freeing! The LORD will bless your obedience and your obedience will bless the LORD :)
Blessings!
Kathleen
Our Bear Valley home 2002-2004
The first picture on the left is taken from the front yard looking towards the neighbors house. The second picture is DH with our new puppy Lady, she is an Australian Shepard Lab mix we rescued.
The picture on the top left is the first view you get of our valley. Top right is the house from the front yard. In the bottom picture you can see the valley view we have from our deck. As you can see my beloved husband has really taken to this place. It's just incredible and we are very blessed to be here. Praise be to God.
Our first fall.... and first winter.
Ma and Posie Mae who stayed for a time.
Our beloved Spanish Gaited Pony, Coco.
God gave Katie flowers for her 6th birthday, I don't think she will ever be happier as she was on that day.
Our first real good snow people, one for every member of the family.
Our goats for a time.
Going to the Scottish Festivals. Katies 1st Tea
